It was a sunny day. I was walking with my friend and colleague, who was playing an invisible guitar humming the AC/DC theme from Iron Man, when he hit a particularly high note.
“Dude, what on earth are you doing?”
"I wish I was a guitarist, bro. ” he said with a sheepish grin.
“And you aren’t because….?” I asked, knowing full well that it might hurt him to recollect the reasons why he wasn’t. His face grew dark when he said that his family didn’t really care about it.
My failure, my fault.
For the next few days, I met many people who had regretted their life choices, which ironically they didn’t make. You could literally feel the sadness emanating from them. I wish I was a DJ, Cricketer, Basketball player were some really intriguing things I heard the now-engineers-and-doctors say.
As Mark Twain once said, ‘Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.’ ; the smallest regret can be a terribly painful thing.
What if I had taken the bold step of doing what I liked professionally? What If I had NOT given up to the society’s defined ‘rules’? What if I had done what my gut had told me to? What if I had just asked that really hot girl out on a date? Okay, we all know how that would have ended, but still!
“What if” - the phrase that could (and would) constantly claw at your heart and mind until it was raw and even the best healer doesn’t make it any better (trust me, I know. I could have dated that girl).
At the age when life seems to go on forever..
Surprise, surprise! It doesn’t.
Read that again.
Okay, Once more.
Okay, so, when you realise the weight of that statement, you will never have to leave your life having to deal with the constant doubt of failing. It’s just this one life we get to make our call, and when people other than you call the shots, then are you really living your life? Obviously someone else is taking you on a piggyback ride on the most important journey ever.
Another friend of mine, who made the bold decision to NOT follow her parent’s profession of becoming a medical practitioner, was constantly under scrutiny by the people around her. “Well, the girl just dug her own grave. She could have easily settled for what her parents threw at her.” That amount of BS is something Kamaal R Khan would be proud of, don’t you think? At this rate, we would end up having a whole lot of depressing cemeteries with their occupants being the cause for it.
If we are here to live the way everyone does, then doesn’t life get boring? We are a lucky speck on this lonely planet among billions of stars and imposing galaxies, and to live in fear because things may go wrong? Oh please! An asteroid may be heading our way right now. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about rebelling out and colouring your hair red and gold with a nose ring. Follow your heart and walk the talk. That’s precisely what she did by becoming a successful graphic designer. Happiness is what she has, which sometimes the richest miss out on.
I mean before you know it, you’re going to be the old wrinkly person and the only thing you can look forward to then, is the view six feet under. I’m not really sure if voodoo can bring you back to live your life again, but that’s a long shot and ‘The Walking Dead’ isn’t a show on how people achieved their dreams coming back from the dead, is it?
Now excuse me while I go speak to that girl.
Photography By: Sarthak Dubey