If You Don’t Like Something, Change It

Food for Thought



                 Life is often seen as a game, and we’re all little Marios and Captain Claws scuttling around with our daily stuff and trying to uncover different treasures of life; at the same time, there’s this whole Gameception going on with most of us indulging in another game whilst in Life’s play.

Some race through, some dance through, but a lot of us “Zorb” through our lives!

Zorbing, also known as ‘Sphereing’, is a recreational sport in which a person is put into an orb (made of plastic), and then it’s moved and rolled over the area, mostly downhill. Funnily, that’s exactly what most of us do, but unlike their visible counterparts, our orbs can’t be seen; they are very different from the former(s).

Imagine this. You’re inside a sphere that resembles those typical patchwork quilts which are often gifted to you by your grandparents, or are heirlooms. Every patch on it is of a colour differing from each other, and yet not a single one is opaque. It’s your whole (coloured) world inside a transparent globe; it’s also very cozy and comfortable inside. You look outside and snuggle in a little bit more, afraid of the big bad world.


The sad part is that even if we aren’t happy inside our ring(s), we refuse to step out due to the fear of the outside world. We brush away the idea of melting the chains because we are scared to step out of our comfort zones.

No one should have to be forced to take up certain subjects just because his/her parents want that; you shouldn’t have to go through the torture of working and doing something that you don’t wish to do, and no one, absolutely no one should have to go through domestic violence, marital rape or any atrocious kind of incident(s). You shouldn’t settle for anything less than you ought to receive.

So, what do you do?

You begin by pulling out every single stitch of the carefully sewn together patches. As you tug at it, you will feel pain and fear at the thought of the ‘new’ and the change; don’t let that deter you. This is the baby step of your metanoia.

Embrace it and keep going. When you pull out one patch, stick your face out and breathe the fresh air of mental (and physical) freedom. Let that encourage you to yank out the remaining barriers. Break the shackles by doing what you want to do because you’re a human, not someone’s puppet. See this as your death and birth at the same time. You’re like a phoenix; you rise from the ashes to turn into a remarkable being.

Meet Mr. New and befriend Miss Change; initially they may come across as cold and unwelcoming but once you get to know them, their company becomes exciting and enjoyable.

Is the Big P’s date coming towards you? Screw the herd mentality or any other kind of pressure. Sit for the companies’ placements only if you know that their offices will be the perfect ground(s) to get more points on your Passion Scorecard.

A friend once told me that if you aren’t happy with your current situation, but don’t want to do anything about it, then stay if you don’t want to be homeless, but the streets would treat you better because you’ll be, paraphrasing William Ernest Henley’s lines, the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.

There isn’t going to be any doctor to cut the umbilical cord between you and your orb; you’ll have to do it yourself. It isn’t easy, but it has to be done, unless you’re satisfied with the prospect of living in an unhappy circle.

Reality checks may seem unpleasant at first, but they will never bounce; they assure continuous and lump sum amounts of life-changing chances, lessons and experiences because whatever happens, happens for the best.